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Hikidemono: a wedding guide

Each guest at a Japanese wedding takes a gift home. It may be a cup or a dish with a sweet.

When couples book this

Usually ordered about 2 months out. It moves with your date.

Still deciding the wedding

Your wishlist

Answer these before you meet anyone.

  • Which parts?

    Three parts is the usual set; a catalog lets each guest choose the main gift.

  • One gift for everyone, or different by guest?

    Some couples give family a larger gift than friends or colleagues, in the same bag.

Comparing your options

How it’s usually priced

Usually priced per guest.

Possible extras: Hikigashi (the sweet), Engimono, Noshi and wrapping, Delivery to guests' homes.

Booked and settling details

What you settle once booked

  • Carried home, or delivered?

    Delivered to the home, even a big gift leaves guests nothing to carry.

  • The groups and what each receives

    One line a group — who is in it, the main gift, and how many.

  • The noshi

    The ten-strand musubikiri, and the names written under it, spelled as they should print.

  • The final count

    From your confirmed guest list — by guest or by household, the way you ordered.

The week of the wedding

The day-of sheet

Confirm arrival, finish, who to call, access, a meal, and what is due.

Across the whole day

Choose which moments to include.

  • Hikidemono delivered to the venue

For businesses

The brief a couple sends you has these sections:

See a sample brief