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Coffee ceremony: a wedding guide

Some Ethiopian and Eritrean weddings have a coffee rite. Beans roast in the room and then each cup is filled three times.

When couples book this

About 3 months before your wedding.

Still deciding the wedding

Your wishlist

Answer these before you meet anyone.

  • What setting are you picturing?

Comparing your options

How it’s usually priced

Usually priced as one flat amount.

Possible extras: Popcorn and bread (himbasha or difo dabo).

Booked and settling details

What you settle once booked

  • Roasting over coals cleared with the venue?

    The live roast and incense are the heart of it — indoor venues sometimes ask for an electric roaster or a ventilated corner.

  • Who hosts the ceremony?

    Family-hosted is the usual form — a woman of the family roasts and pours, in traditional dress, and at the melse or melsi the bride pours her husband's cup. Rentals supply the full setting: the jebena, the rekebot and its sini cups, the grass laid under it, the etan to burn, popcorn and the bread.

The week of the wedding

The day-of sheet

Confirm arrival, finish, who to call, access, a meal, and what is due.

Across the whole day

Choose which moments to include.

  • Coffee ceremony

For businesses

The brief a couple sends you has these sections:

See a sample brief